Saturday, March 3, 2012
I pierced my ear cartilage! Mid-life crisis?
Yay! I've wanted to do this for a while now. So today, I did! And I love it! I think I'm having a 'mid-life crisis'! Am I? Here's part of the definition:
For the approximately 10% of middle aged adults who go through an age-related midlife crisis, the condition is most common ranging from the ages of 40-60 (a large study in the 1990s found that the average age at onset of a self-described midlife crisis was 46). Midlife crises last about 3–10 years in men and 2–5 years in women. A midlife crisis could be caused by aging itself, or aging in combination with changes, problems, or regrets over:
*work or career (or lack thereof)
*spousal relationships (or lack thereof)
*maturation of children (or lack thereof)
*aging or death of parents
*physical changes associated with aging
Midlife crises seem to affect men and women differently. Researchers have proposed that the triggers for midlife crisis differ between men and women, with male midlife crisis more likely to be caused by work issues.
Some have hypothesized that another cause of the male midlife crisis is the imminent menopause of the female partner and end of her reproductive career.
Insecurities go so far as to affixing the badge of an expensive sports car to a cheaper one, in an attempt to convey a false sense of success.
Individuals experiencing a midlife crisis have some of these feelings:
*search of an undefined dream or goal
*a deep sense of remorse for goals not accomplished
*a fear of humiliation among more successful colleagues
*desire to achieve a feeling of youthfulness
*need to spend more time alone or with certain peers
They exhibit some of these behaviors:
*abuse of alcohol
*acquisition of unusual or expensive items such as motorbikes, boats, clothing, sports cars, jewelry, gadgets, tattoos, piercings, etc.
*blaming themselves for their failures
*paying special attention to physical appearance such as covering baldness, wearing youthful designer clothes, etc.
*entering relationships with younger people (either/or sexual, professional, parental, etc.)
*placing overimportance (and possibly a psychologically damaging amount) on their children to excel in areas such as sports, arts, or academics
Yikes! I'm 44 - is that "middle age"? Should I mention I want a tattoo? And I want to skydive (can't do that one because of vertigo)? And I want to buy a jeep? And I want to lose 70 lbs.? And I desire to be hip & mod? And suddenly I want to go, go, go, do, do, do & purchase, purchase, purchase?
This could get interesting! And expensive!